Being a parent means you must deal with a toddler at some point, hence you would understand the need for more articles like this.
THE MISUNDERSTOOD TODDLER
Being a parent means you must
deal with a toddler at some point, hence you would understand the need for more
articles like this.
I will start up by saying toddlers
are very misunderstood. They are eager to be independent by trying to do things
themselves which tends to result in a mess. They also tend to have trouble
dealing with limits, compromises, and disappointments. Then they have their
sleep cycle which tends to be a nightmare once disrupted.
This can all be dealt with by
providing love and routines which could give them a guide on how to behave and
show what is achievable. We would discuss a few tips on what to do when you
have your hands full with an adorable toddler.
Explain the rules better.
Instead of saying Stop
hitting your head on the wall, try saying if you do not stop hitting your head
in the wall you could hurt yourself. Hence explaining the consequences of their
actions help make them understand why it should not be done. PS: it does not
really stop them from doing what they want.
Try being more affectionate
when possible and if possible, make sure your displays of affection for your
child outnumber any consequences or punishments. Little signs of affections
like hugs, kisses, touching the cheeks, saying you love them would reassure
them. Toddlers are good at picking up signs of affection and they do tend to
reciprocate it to their siblings and parents.
It is important to be
consistent when you discipline a toddler. Firstly, toddlers do tend to notice
little discrepancies especially with regards to repercussions. Stick to the
rules you made as parents and be ready to give warnings for things you can
follow through. For example, saying No to a toddler having sweets after 19:00
hrs should be always enforced. If you dare break the rules there would be
Secondly, you must be a good
example as they are ever so observant. This starts by repeating what their
parents say so it might be a good time to void using curse words.
The art of distraction is
essential when dealing with toddlers. This should be deployed when toddlers
head towards danger or attempt to go to places which might not be safe. They
tend to distract easy hence pointing towards a safe space or object, singing or
clapping would get their attention. Furthermore, in situations where they get
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avoid spanking or hitting a toddler as they are unable to make the connection
between the behaviour and physical punishment.
Experts say timeout is an
effective means of addressing bad behaviours in toddlers. This involves getting
the toddler to sit on a chair, a quiet corner in the living room, even the
bottom stairs for a few minutes till they are calm. For example, A toddle who
has been throwing food could be told it is wrong and given a time out to sit in
a quiet corner. Remember they distract easily hence it would be wise to remove
any toys or objects they could engage with.
As a rule, about 1 minute per
year of age is a good guide for timeouts. Longer timeouts have no added
benefit. And they could undermine your efforts if your child gets up (and
refuses to return) before you signal that the timeout has ended.
Even the toughest of parents are hardly
a challenge for a full-blown toddler, but please remember that as their
language skills develop, they become more reasonable hence better at behaving.
If their bad behaviour persists despite
every effort, might be a good time to get in touch with SandsClinic, we have a
few tricks up our sleeves. Until then, happy parenting.